Amy强力推荐我看《绝望的主妇》还把碟子拿来给我，一向怕看连续剧，觉得浪费时间，智者不是常常教诲我们要多读书，少看电视？可也不想拂她的好意，只得以提高英语的名义安慰自己。谁知这一部不仅没让我失望，简直是意外惊喜。精巧的剧情略带神秘的气息，错综地推进而环环相扣，极尽回旋翻覆，一波三折之妙。富于哲理的对白让人微笑亦或叹息的同时不得不思考这一切看似荒唐的背后那个注定的命运。

 

不知是有意借鉴还是纯属巧合，这是个与《My name is red》几乎相同的开头，一个自杀的主妇默默注视着之后发生的一切，而她的角度与我们已经那么的不同。"An odd thing happens when we die. Our senses vanish. Taste, touch, smell, and sound become a distant memory. But our sight. Ah. Our sight expands."

 

每集结尾那一段画外音慢慢淡出之后，我都被一种人生的苍凉感浸漫包围，剧名贯以Desperate, 对于观者来说也许更多的是沧桑感慨，它有着一种自然流露的悲天悯人的情怀。

 

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"An odd thing happens when we die. Our senses vanish. Taste, touch, smell, and sound become a distant memory. But our sight. Ah. Our sight expands. And we can suddenly see the world we left behind so clearly. Of course, most of what's visible to the dead can also be seen by the living. If they only take the time to look."

 

"As I look back at the world I left behind, it's all so clear to me. The beauty that waits to be unveiled. The mysteries that long to be uncovered. But people so rarely stop to take a look. They just keep moving. It's a shame, really. There's so much to see."
 
"Trust is a fragile thing
Once earned, it affords us tremendous freedom
But once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover
Of course the truth is
Those who we are closest to can betray us
And total strangers can come to our rescue
In the end, most people choose to trust only themselves
It is the simplest way
To keep from getting burned"
 
"We all hope to meet something that will make our lives meaningful
But the sad fact is
Not all lives have meanings
Some people spend their time on this planet just sitting on the sidelines
Waiting for something that happens to them
Before it's too late"
 
"We all honor heroes for some reasons
Sometimes for their daring
Sometimes for their bravery
Sometimes for their goodness
But mostly we honor heroes
Because at one point or another
we dream of being rescued
Of coz, if the right hero doesn't come along
Sometimes we just have to rescue ourselves"
 
"The vow is simple really
Those who take it promise to stay together for better or for worse
for richer or for poorer
in sickness and in health
to honor and to cherish
for sake in all others
until death do us apart
Yes, the vow is simple
binding someone worthy of such a promise is the hard part
but if we can, that's when we begin to live happily ever after"
 
"It's an odd thing to look back on the world
To watch those I left behind
Each of her own way so brave, so determined and so very desperate
Desperate to venture out, but afraid of what she'll miss when she goes
Desperate to get everything she wants, even when she was not exactly sure of what that is
Desperate for life to be perfect again, althogh she realized it never really was
Desperate for a better future, if she can find a way to escape her past
I not only watched, I cheered them on, these amazing women.
I hope so much that they'll find what they are looking for
But I know not all of them will
Sadly, that's just not the way life works
Not everyone gets a happy ending" 

 

子曰：“可与言而不与之言，失人；不可与言而与之言，失言。知者不失人，亦不失言。”

 

反躬自问，从前固执每每失言，如今沉默又常怀失人之忧，盖生非智者也。 

 

唐唐转给我一份据说是台湾的中文考试题目，很有意思，有一题问：就你对孔子的认识，你认为他的星座应该是属于......选项A:争强好胜，表现欲强的牡羊座。不知谁加了句评点说：这是子路。不由失笑，却也忽然明白何以我喜欢子路，总是性情相近而心有戚戚吧。

 

读论语，常觉得夫子固然是个前无古人的好老师，而能得天下英才而教育之，也是人生一乐。且不说精明干练的子贡，举一反三的子夏，就是白天睡觉的宰予也自有诙谐可爱之处。夫子当然是最偏爱颜回，人前人后赞不绝口，对刚直好勇的子路则每每无情打压。子路问他：“子行三军，则谁与？” 可以想象提问时殷殷期待的眼神，伴之以舍我其谁的自信满满，不料夫子毫不客气地回答：“暴虎冯河，死而无悔者，吾不与也。” 读来真替子路郁闷。这是夫子的因材施教，也是他的担忧吧，后来闻听卫国乱，夫子就叹息说“由死矣”，可见知子路之深。

 

在论语简洁的对话中，子路是个性最为鲜明的，他举止刚强，“行行如也”；直言无饰，“子曰：片言可以折狱者，其由也与？”； 豪爽仗义，“子路无宿诺”；磊磊落落，“衣敝缊袍与衣狐貉者立而不耻”。子路的理想是“愿车马衣裘与朋友共。敝之而无憾。”大有梁山好汉的味道。

 

最能体现牡羊座特色的是子路的直率激烈，喜怒形于色。子曰：“道不行，乘桴浮于海。从我者其由与？”子路闻之喜。而子见南子，子路很不高兴。虽然论语里没具体描绘，想来是满面愠色，不排除还有激烈的质问，以至逼得夫子发誓说：“予所否者，天厌之！天厌之！”

 

这样的子路没有去做荆轲聂政而是结缨而死也实在是不负夫子的教导了，“食其食者不避其难”，这也符合夫子所鼓励的见义勇为。相信孟子更赞成子路的行为：自反而缩，虽千万人吾往矣。可惜文献记载孟子生辰是周历四月初二，夏历二月初二，不然真怀疑他也是我们牡羊座的，当然也差之不远。:)